Bilingual Trauma Therapy
Ronee Miller
CHILDHOOD EMOTIONAL NEGLECT IS THE ROOT OF ...

When we are emotionally neglected as children our nervous system does the best it can to go into survival mode in an atttempt to protect us ... Since we are completely dependent and vulnerable and unable to “fight or flee” so we go into“freeze” response where we are numb and emotionally shut down in an attempt to not feel our fear and our pain. When no one hears or listens to our “cry” we lose hope as our emotional needs are not noticed or given attention and we feel like we do not exist..Over time our “little child” part gets more frozen and “stuck” and has difficulty moving forward and begins to internalize the emotional neglect and we as adults then begin to neglect ourselves emotionally and due to lack of hope and feelings of helplessness develop a pattern of procrastination and the root is “childhood emotional neglect”.

CHILDHOOD EMOTIONAL NEGLECT IS THE ROOT OF PROCRASTINATION
Bilingual Relationship Therapy, Bilingual Trauma Therapy
Ronee Miller
HOW TO IDENTIFY EMOTIONAL NEEDINESS

When we were the most vulnerable and dependent and “emotionally needy(”as we all have been as children )it can feel like a cry deep in our soul when no one hears or seems to care about us. Our mind, will and emotions are what define our soul. For many of us who have been “ traumatically wounded” in childhood: the message we received was that we will not have our emotional reality nurtured or have anyone who can help us to process our emotions in a” healthy” way. You may be becoming more and more aware and of the consequences that are affecting your self-esteem and your relationships as the“little boy or girl part” got stuck in a pattern of “emotional neediness” that needs to be healed so you can move on with hope and start to. understand what is going on inside of you emotionally physically: and spiritually. You may have stuffed your emotions and are now becoming more aware of the consequences related to your childhood trauma.

HOW TO IDENTIFY EMOTIONAL NEEDINESS
Bilingual Relationship Therapy, Bilingual Trauma Therapy
Ronee Miller
HOW TO HEAL AVOIDANT ATTACHMENT STYLE

The way that we learn to connect with others in our relationships is called “attachment style” .Our parents and caregivers play a crucial role i the style of “attachment'‘ we develop.. When as children those adults who are closest are unable to nurture us and be responsive to our needs then in order to survive we often “shut down” emotionally. An“avoidant attachment style” develops as a survival response to fear,, anxiety and feelings of rejection and abandonment.as there is a lack of a secure connection and trust.

HOW TO HEAL AVOIDANT ATTACHMENT STYLE
Bilingual Trauma Therapy
Ronee Miller
HOW TO STOP BEING A DOORMAT

Doormats are exploited and dumped on. Doormats are used and often abused. Doormats do not have a voice. Before you can stop being a doormat it is essential that you actually begin to identify and see what the qualities of a doormat are. You may have been well-trained since early childhood to stuff your feelings and your voice and to be a “people pleaser”. and now you feeling depleted and believe the lie that you are powerless.

HOW TO STOP BEING A DOORMAT
Bilingual Trauma Therapy
Ronee Miller
ADULT WOUNDS OF CHILDHOOD SEXUAL ABUSE

Childhood sexual abuse creates a deep wound in the soul. As a child you are vulnerable and dependent on adults that are supposed to be there to love and protect you but have failed you. Most childhood sexual abuse happens in families and the perpetrator is often someone you trusted and yet they were not worthy of your trust. And though there were many signs when you were being abused that “something was wrong” no one even noticed. Not being noticed caused even more confusion and pain about your own value as no one heard your “cry” but that “cry” is still inside although muffled over time.

ADULT WOUNDS OF CHILDHOOD SEXUAL ABUSE

KEYS TO BREAK THE CHAINS OF WORK ADDICTION

KEYS TO BREAK THE CHAINS OF WORK ADDICTION

Are you noticing that your life is out of balance and you are becoming more emotionally and spiritually shutdown and disconnected from yourself and others?

Is it is getting more and more difficult for you to set boundaries and limits on time you are

working? Is it difficult for you when it is time to leave work to know that it is time?

Do you constantly ruminate about work and strive for perfection?

Are you exhausted and yet you do not know how to rest?

Are you starting to see that your addiction to work is related to your history of trauma?

MEN : BREAKING THE SILENCE OF CHILDHOOD SEXUAL ABUSE

MEN : BREAKING THE SILENCE OF CHILDHOOD SEXUAL ABUSE

Have you stuffed and minimized what happened to you in an attempt to cope?

Are you wanting to move forward but feeling unable to move and “stuck”?

Are you in a battle in your mind constantly and filled with shame and guilt?

Are you feeling depressed and anxious most of the time but try to hide it?

Has the wounding to your self esteem colored how you feel about yourself?

Is it difficult and sometimes feeling impossible for you to “feel safe” and “to trust’?

HOW THE FEAR OF INTIMACY EFFECTS RELATIONSHIPS

HOW THE FEAR OF INTIMACY EFFECTS RELATIONSHIPS

Do you feel and believe that you are :unlovable”? Do you fear rejection and abandonment and have built a wall around your heart in an attempt to “protect yourself”? Do you have a history of unstable relationships? Do you have a pattern of shutting down and avoiding what is going on inside of you? Do you have difficulty addressing conflict and either stuff your feelings or explode? Do your trust and self esteem issues stem from childhood trauma?

CHILDHOOD TRAUMA IS THE ROOT OF ADDICTION

CHILDHOOD TRAUMA IS THE ROOT OF ADDICTION

Are you becoming more aware “of how you avoid you” and that it is difficult for you to connect with yourself and others and how your addiction(s) fuels this “stuck” place? How does the disconnection with yourself effect your life now? Do you have many distractions that enable you to “numb out” and remain disconnected from the “war” within? Do you avoid conflict by “any means necessary” rather than address what needs to be confronted? Are you struggling with depression and anxiety and have times of feeling “hopeless” that you can ever be truly healed from all the pain/shame inside? Do you have an overwhelming fear of rejection and abandonment that colors all of your relationships?

THE PANDEMIC OF UNHEALED WOUNDS

THE PANDEMIC OF UNHEALED WOUNDS

Are you starting to see and no longer deny and avoid the effects of your unhealed wounds in your relationship with yourself and those close to you? Have you been experiencing pain in your body as your memories and emotions are more difficult now for you to stuff and avoid your pain? Are you feeling overwhelmed and “stuck” by your woundedness and having difficulty moving forward? Are you starting to understand how essential it is for you to address your pain and no longer neglect yourself so that you can begin to heal?

HEALING FROM THE PAIN OF ENMESHMENT

HEALING FROM THE PAIN OF ENMESHMENT

Do you feel that you are walking on eggs in relationships? Are you fearful of abandonment? Constantly trying to please others or read their unspoken messages? Are you afraid to assert yourself? Do you base your self esteem on how others see you or how you perceive that they see you? Do you have difficulties setting boundaries and limits and often are intruded on by others? Do you fear disappointing people? Were you raised in a family where your boundaries were consistently violated and your voice was shut down? Do you feel helpless at times and filled with guilt and shame? All of the above can be effects of enmeshment and are blocks to forming healthy “fully alive relationships” ..but there is help, hope and healing on the way!

KEYS TO UNBLOCK YOUR TRUST ISSUES

KEYS TO UNBLOCK YOUR TRUST ISSUES

Are you continually finding yourself struggling with trust issues? Do you find it difficult to know who you can trust and who is not trustworthy? Do you often make choices of letting people in that hurt you and cause you to doubt yourself rather then having healthy relationships with people that support you and encourage as well as challenge you to grow? Do you struggle with trusting yourself and your own impressions and perceptions? Do you expect to be rejected and betrayed rather than honored and loved?

STOP MAKING PEACE WITH POWERLESSNESS

STOP MAKING PEACE WITH POWERLESSNESS

Do you find it difficult to assert yourself as you fear that you will be misunderstood or rejected? Do you fear conflict and do whatever you can to avoid having to address issues? Do you believe that “your voice” will not have any influence so why bother to speak? Do you have difficulties setting boundaries and limits in relationships as you fear how others will react?

WAYS TO MOVE FORWARD WITH HOPE

WAYS TO MOVE FORWARD WITH HOPE

Pandemic has been so stressful for so many of us and for others it has been traumatic. You may already have had a history of trauma as a child or adult and this difficult stressful time has been a “reinjury” ” Now that there is more movement forward in this pandemic situation you may have become even more aware of how this has effected you both inside and out as well as you may be longing to begin another level of moving forward with HOPE and to gain understanding of how your history of trauma has effected you and that you need to take time to HEAL but are not sure how to go about that.

HOW NEGATIVITY IS STEALING YOUR LIFE

HOW NEGATIVITY IS STEALING YOUR LIFE

ARE YOU CONTINUALLY EXPECTING THE WORST OUTCOME AND CATASTROPHIZING AS YOU APPROACH SITUATIONS? WITH YOUR RELATIONSHIPS?H OW YOU VIEW YOURSELF? IS THE GLUE IN YOUR ATTEMPT TO CONNECT WITH OTHERS THAT YOU BOTH MARINATE IN COMPLAINTS AND WORRIES ABOUT YOUR LIFE AND LACK INNER PEACE AND BELIEVE YOU ARE A VICTIM WITH LITTLE HOPE OR BELIEF OF CHANGE? ARE YOU FEELING EXHAUSTED AND DEPLETED PHYSICALLY AND EMOTIONALLY AS DEPRESSION TAKES HOLD OF YOU?