Through the years I have worked with many courageous women and men who have been molested as children. Lately, many more men are “breaking the silence” about what happened to them and seeking therapy as well. You are very likely dealing with depression and anxiety and low esteem as well as a history of addiction to food, relationships, porn, drugs, and alcohol. You may be flooded with memories at times about what happened to you as a child and yet at the same time question your reality and “stuff” and “deny” your thoughts and feelings rather than give yourself the attention you so need. You were not given that attention as a child but it is not too late to give yourself the attention you need to begin to heal the parts of you that have been broken. Yes, it will take courage to the effects of what happened to you but will be so worth it as you come “alive” and the “grave clothes are removed”!

INTERNALIZED SHAME AND BLAME

As a child, you were a “little hostage” with nowhere to run to and no escape.So what happened was in order to survive in a dysfunctional chaotic family you “stuffed and denied” your emotions. This was not a conscious choice but a way to survive. However, your anger and feelings of helplessness( you had no voice} and fear could not be processed so all the negative feelings were internalized in your mind and held in your body. You began to believe and feel that “you are bad”(internalized shame) and that “you were to blame” The Truth is “ you are not bad but something bad happened to you” You were never the problem!

See: ”How To Break The Shame/Depression Cycle”

2. DIFFICULTIES TRUSTING YOURSELF

Since your “internalized shame” fuels you feeling badly about yourself then it has become an uphill battle for you to” trust” yourself. It is so important that you take time to get to know what you are feeling and who you are not based on your traumatic history but based on the truth of who you really are “inside” As you begin to give yourself attention and compassion it will help you to take the step to seek the help you need to heal. Difficult to have healthy alive relationships when you do not trust yourself. See: ”How Trauma Effects Attachment Style”

3. NOT FEELING SAFE IN YOUR BODY

Your body is your boundary as well as your temple for your spirit and your container for emotions and sensations, and memories. As a survivor of childhood sexual abuse so important to learn how to reclaim your body and to feel” safe” in your body. See: ” Keys To Feeling Safe In Your Body”

THE “RIGHT” THERAPIST CAN MAKE ALL THE DIFFERENCE

Giving yourself the attention you never received will be so healing and restorative..Being able to feel “safe” within your body, your mind and your spirit is what will happen when you are in therapy with the ‘right’ therapist so that deep healing can begin! Would be honored to guide you and walk with you on this amazing journey! Give me a call so we can begin!