When we do not feel safe as children, we adapt to survive, however, we become disconnected with our authentic self. As adults, this affects our relationship with ourselves and with others. We can become connected with our bodies and our emotions as we begin to seek healing and do not have to stay stuck in the effects of relationship trauma of the past. Important to notice signs of disconnection from yourself.
Trauma bonds can be extremely challenging to navigate as this bonding touches our deepest wounds. The intertwining between love and fear that began when we had no defenses to protect ourselves needs time and attention to heal. As we connect the dots and give and receive the attention and care we need: we are beginning the healing process to move into freedom and come out of bondage!
When we are emotionally neglected as children our nervous system does the best it can to go into survival mode in an atttempt to protect us ... Since we are completely dependent and vulnerable and unable to “fight or flee” so we go into“freeze” response where we are numb and emotionally shut down in an attempt to not feel our fear and our pain. When no one hears or listens to our “cry” we lose hope as our emotional needs are not noticed or given attention and we feel like we do not exist..Over time our “little child” part gets more frozen and “stuck” and has difficulty moving forward and begins to internalize the emotional neglect and we as adults then begin to neglect ourselves emotionally and due to lack of hope and feelings of helplessness develop a pattern of procrastination and the root is “childhood emotional neglect”.
When we were the most vulnerable and dependent and “emotionally needy(”as we all have been as children )it can feel like a cry deep in our soul when no one hears or seems to care about us. Our mind, will and emotions are what define our soul. For many of us who have been “ traumatically wounded” in childhood: the message we received was that we will not have our emotional reality nurtured or have anyone who can help us to process our emotions in a” healthy” way. You may be becoming more and more aware and of the consequences that are affecting your self-esteem and your relationships as the“little boy or girl part” got stuck in a pattern of “emotional neediness” that needs to be healed so you can move on with hope and start to. understand what is going on inside of you emotionally physically: and spiritually. You may have stuffed your emotions and are now becoming more aware of the consequences related to your childhood trauma.
The way that we learn to connect with others in our relationships is called “attachment style” .Our parents and caregivers play a crucial role i the style of “attachment'‘ we develop.. When as children those adults who are closest are unable to nurture us and be responsive to our needs then in order to survive we often “shut down” emotionally. An“avoidant attachment style” develops as a survival response to fear,, anxiety and feelings of rejection and abandonment.as there is a lack of a secure connection and trust.
All relationships are triggers. and can give us a wonderful as well as challenging opportunity for growth and change. Change can happen without growth but growth can only take place when we change. Love and connection can be triggers when we have attachment wounds from childhood that need to be addressed so that we can give and receive love as adults
Are you feeling overwhelmed by emptiness? Emptiness can be a sign of your unhealed childhood wounds, and you may feel depressed and without purpose. Pausing and processing as you work through feelings of emptiness, as well as the roots of your emptiness, is essential for your healing. You can come alive and flourish by giving yourself the attention and care you need.
When we do not feel safe as children, we adapt to survive, however, we become disconnected with our authentic self. As adults, this affects our relationship with ourselves and with others. We can become connected with our bodies and our emotions as we begin to seek healing and do not have to stay stuck in the effects of relationship trauma of the past. Important to notice signs of disconnection from yourself.
Narcissistic parents are not able to provide a space of safety where you cannot just survive but thrive. In this dysfunctional family system, you were wounded in the deepest places: in your spirit and their soul. Understanding and being able to process and feel the effects of what happened to you as a vulnerable child is an essential part of your healing journey.
Are you feeling hopeless and stuck in PTSD? There are essential steps you can take so that your recovery process, though a time of challenge, is also a time of fruitfulness and healing. You cannot heal in isolation, but you can heal as you courageously and patiently begin to take these essential steps forward!
In-person therapy has many benefits that online therapy cannot provide. For inner healing to begin, a foundation built on trust is needed.. For trust to be built, you must feel safe, seen, heard, and felt. This does not happen screen to screen but face to face and heart to heart in a connected relationship with yourself and your therapist walking this journey together.
One of the roots of depression is shame and shame fuels depression. There is a battle with yourself that affects your mind and heart and needs attention and care so that healing can begin. The root of shame must be pulled up and new seeds of hope and restoration be planted and the chain of depression be broken.
Are you struggling with fear of abandonment issues that get in the way and interfere with your relationships? Do you feel anxious about confronting issues with your partner as you fear rejection can lead to abandonment? Do you have difficulties setting boundaries and tend to be a “pleaser” as you fear abandonment if you are authentically “you”?
Porn addiction has little or nothing to do with sex. It is caused and fueled by childhood relational trauma. It is important to know that healing is not about mainly focusing on the behavior but processing the roots of trauma so that you can truly begin to connect with yourself and those you love rather than disconnect.
