ARE YOU AWARE THAT YOUR NEGATIVE THOUGHTS AND FEELINGS(INTERNALIZED FEAR AND ANGER) ARE FUELING YOUR DEPRESSION? HOW WE THINK AND FEEL ABOUT OURSELVES DIRECTLY INFLUENCES “THE QUALITY OF OUR LIVES”.SO IF YOU ARE CONTINUALLY OBSESSING AND FEEDING YOURSELF A DIET OF NEGATIVE(SHAMING/CRITICAL) THOUGHTS AND FEELINGS OR LACK OF FEELING THIS WILL BE REFLECTED IN YOUR RELATIONSHIPS.(SEE: 5 KEYS TO HAVING HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS AND HOW TO MAKE THEM A PRIORITY) WHEN YOU LIVE YOUR LIFE EXPECTING “THE WORST” OF YOURSELF, OTHERS AND SITUATIONS THEN YOU ARE ESSENTIALLY PLANTING “SEEDS OF HOPELESSNESS” AS WELL AS “DEFEAT” AND YOU ARE “STUCK” IN THE EFFECTS OF THOSE NEGATIVE THOUGHTS AND FEELINGS THAT CAN TAKE ON A LIFE OF THEIR OWN. THIS PATTERN IS ACTUALLY PROLONGING YOUR PAIN AS IT REINJURES YOUR WOUNDS. YOU NEED TO HEAL FROM THE”INSIDE OUT NOT THE OUTSIDE IN” SO THAT NEW HEALTHY PATTERNS BEGIN TO DEVELOPE.
IS IT DIFFICULT FOR YOU TO PROCESS AND FEEL POSITIVE EMOTIONS BUT “ADDICTED TO THE NEGATIVE ONES”?
AS A CHILD YOU MAY HAVE NEVER BEEN ENCOURAGED OR ABLE TO TRUST THAT YOU WERE “SAFE” ENOUGH TO HAVE AND PROCEES AS WELL AS INTERNAIZE “GOOD FEELINGS”. YOU MAY HAVE GROWN UP IN A FAMILY WHERE ABUSE/NEGLECT(SEE: KEYS TO UNDERSTANDING TRAUMA AND TRAUMA RECOVERY) AS WELL AS COMPLAINTS AND CRITICISM ABOUT YOU WERE WHAT YOU INTERNALIZED AND NOW PROJECT INTO ALL AREAS OF YOUR INNER AND OUTER LIFE..YOU MAY HAVE NEVER FELT LOVED, VALUED, SECURE AND NURTURED GROWING UP. (SEE:WAYS TO RECOGNIZE THAT YOU DON’T VALUE YOURSELF) IN ORDER TO SURVIVE IN THIS “DARKNESS” AS A CHILD YOU LEARNED TO NOT EXPECT TO BE HEARD, SEEN (BUT EXPECT DISAPPOINTMENT) OR FOR YOUR EMOTIONS TO BE VALIDATED. SO AS A RESULT YOUR HURT AND ANGRY FEELINGS WERE MINIMIZED OR DENIED OR STUFFED DEEP DOWN.. YOU THEN BECAME EVEN MORE NEGATIVE,CRITICAL AND JUDGEMENTAL AND WITHOUT HOPE OF A CHANGE BUT “FAITH IN DEFEAT”. OVER TIME ONE OF THE MAJOR EFFECTS OF THIS FOR YOU IS THAT YOU BECAME EVEN MORE EMOTIONALLY SHUTDOWN(FROZEN) AND DEPRESSED . YOUR DEPRESSION MAY BE DIRECTLTY RELATED TO YOUR BECOMING “ADDICTED” TO BELIEFS (LIES ABOUT YOURSELF”) AND NEGATIVE THOUGHTS AND FEELINGS THAT BEGAN WHEN YOU WERE A CHILD IN YOUR FAMILY WHERE YOU NEVER LEARNED YOU WERE OF VALUE FROM THE “ INSIDE AND OUT” AND WHERE HOPE AND TRUST AND JOY WERE SNUFFED FROM YOUR SPIRIT AND NEGATIVITY AND DEPRESSION POURED IN. IT IS TIME FOR YOU TO HEAL! ACTUALLY “OVERTIME”) TIME TO MOVE SEE HOW YOU CAN MOVE FORWARD AND NOT HAVE TO LIVE AT THE EFFECTS OF WHAT HAPPENED TO YOU!
THERE IS “HOPE” AND HEALING” ON THE WAY WITH THE “RIGHT THERAPIST”(WHO CAN MAKE A DIFFERENCE)
IF YOU ARE SUFFERING FROM DEPRESSION(AND TIRED OF BEING A “NEGATIVE JUNKIE”) AND TIRED OF THINKING AND FEELING THE WAY YOU DO ABOUT YOURSELF,YOUR LIFE,YOUR RELATIONSHIPS,TIRED OF COMPLAINING AND FEELING LIKE A VICTIM (SEE THREE KEYS TO BEGIN TO HEAL TRAUMATIC WOUNDS AND NO LONGER BE A VICTIM)THEN I WOULD LOVE TO HEAR FROM YOU AND WALK WITH YOU IN THIS HEALING JOURNEY AS YOU GO FROM “DARKNESS” INTO THE “LIGHT” AS CHAINS OF “LIES YOU BELIEVED ABOUT YOURSELF” ARE BROKEN AND DESTROYED. YOU CAN BEGIN TO COME “FULLY” ALIVE AND LIVE YOUR LIFE IN POWER AND STRENGTH AND JOY! LOOKING FORWARD TO HEARING FROM YOU IF YOU WOULD LIKE TO LEARN MORE ABOUT DEPRESSION THERAPY PLEASE GIVE ME A CALL!