Bilingual Trauma Therapy
Ronee Miller
CHILDHOOD EMOTIONAL NEGLECT IS THE ROOT OF ...

When we are emotionally neglected as children our nervous system does the best it can to go into survival mode in an atttempt to protect us ... Since we are completely dependent and vulnerable and unable to “fight or flee” so we go into“freeze” response where we are numb and emotionally shut down in an attempt to not feel our fear and our pain. When no one hears or listens to our “cry” we lose hope as our emotional needs are not noticed or given attention and we feel like we do not exist..Over time our “little child” part gets more frozen and “stuck” and has difficulty moving forward and begins to internalize the emotional neglect and we as adults then begin to neglect ourselves emotionally and due to lack of hope and feelings of helplessness develop a pattern of procrastination and the root is “childhood emotional neglect”.

CHILDHOOD EMOTIONAL NEGLECT IS THE ROOT OF PROCRASTINATION
Bilingual Relationship Therapy, Bilingual Trauma Therapy
Ronee Miller
HOW TO IDENTIFY EMOTIONAL NEEDINESS

When we were the most vulnerable and dependent and “emotionally needy(”as we all have been as children )it can feel like a cry deep in our soul when no one hears or seems to care about us. Our mind, will and emotions are what define our soul. For many of us who have been “ traumatically wounded” in childhood: the message we received was that we will not have our emotional reality nurtured or have anyone who can help us to process our emotions in a” healthy” way. You may be becoming more and more aware and of the consequences that are affecting your self-esteem and your relationships as the“little boy or girl part” got stuck in a pattern of “emotional neediness” that needs to be healed so you can move on with hope and start to. understand what is going on inside of you emotionally physically: and spiritually. You may have stuffed your emotions and are now becoming more aware of the consequences related to your childhood trauma.

HOW TO IDENTIFY EMOTIONAL NEEDINESS
Bilingual Relationship Therapy, Bilingual Trauma Therapy
Ronee Miller
HOW TO HEAL AVOIDANT ATTACHMENT STYLE

The way that we learn to connect with others in our relationships is called “attachment style” .Our parents and caregivers play a crucial role i the style of “attachment'‘ we develop.. When as children those adults who are closest are unable to nurture us and be responsive to our needs then in order to survive we often “shut down” emotionally. An“avoidant attachment style” develops as a survival response to fear,, anxiety and feelings of rejection and abandonment.as there is a lack of a secure connection and trust.

HOW TO HEAL AVOIDANT ATTACHMENT STYLE
Bilingual Trauma Therapy
Ronee Miller
HOW TO STOP BEING A DOORMAT

Doormats are exploited and dumped on. Doormats are used and often abused. Doormats do not have a voice. Before you can stop being a doormat it is essential that you actually begin to identify and see what the qualities of a doormat are. You may have been well-trained since early childhood to stuff your feelings and your voice and to be a “people pleaser”. and now you feeling depleted and believe the lie that you are powerless.

HOW TO STOP BEING A DOORMAT
Bilingual Trauma Therapy
Ronee Miller
ADULT WOUNDS OF CHILDHOOD SEXUAL ABUSE

Childhood sexual abuse creates a deep wound in the soul. As a child you are vulnerable and dependent on adults that are supposed to be there to love and protect you but have failed you. Most childhood sexual abuse happens in families and the perpetrator is often someone you trusted and yet they were not worthy of your trust. And though there were many signs when you were being abused that “something was wrong” no one even noticed. Not being noticed caused even more confusion and pain about your own value as no one heard your “cry” but that “cry” is still inside although muffled over time.

ADULT WOUNDS OF CHILDHOOD SEXUAL ABUSE

Bilingual Trauma Therapy

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HOW TO HEAL AVOIDANT ATTACHMENT STYLE

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HOW TO HEAL AVOIDANT ATTACHMENT STYLE

The way that we learn to connect with others in our relationships is called “attachment style” .Our parents and caregivers play a crucial role i the style of “attachment'‘ we develop.. When as children those adults who are closest are unable to nurture us and be responsive to our needs then in order to survive we often “shut down” emotionally. An“avoidant attachment style” develops as a survival response to fear,, anxiety and feelings of rejection and abandonment.as there is a lack of a secure connection and trust.

HOW TO STOP BEING A DOORMAT

HOW TO STOP BEING A DOORMAT

Doormats are exploited and dumped on. Doormats are used and often abused. Doormats do not have a voice. Before you can stop being a doormat it is essential that you actually begin to identify and see what the qualities of a doormat are. You may have been well-trained since early childhood to stuff your feelings and your voice and to be a “people pleaser”. and now you feeling depleted and believe the lie that you are powerless.

HEALING FROM CHILDHOOD SEXUAL ABUSE

HEALING FROM CHILDHOOD SEXUAL ABUSE

As a survivor of childhood sexual abuse, you may feel extremely alone in your pain. Have you been depressed and anxious and at times feel impatient with yourself? Have you walked with this ‘secret” most of your life and sometimes question your own reality and memories? Are you experiencing Post Traumatic Stress Disorder as you are “triggered” and often feel overwhelmed? Are you starting to see that you need “healing “ and “care” in order not to continue to” avoid and neglect yourself”?

ADULT WOUNDS OF CHILDHOOD SEXUAL ABUSE

ADULT WOUNDS OF CHILDHOOD SEXUAL ABUSE

Childhood sexual abuse creates a deep wound in the soul. As a child you are vulnerable and dependent on adults that are supposed to be there to love and protect you but have failed you. Most childhood sexual abuse happens in families and the perpetrator is often someone you trusted and yet they were not worthy of your trust. And though there were many signs when you were being abused that “something was wrong” no one even noticed. Not being noticed caused even more confusion and pain about your own value as no one heard your “cry” but that “cry” is still inside although muffled over time.

SIGNS THAT YOU DO NOT VALUE "YOU"

SIGNS THAT YOU DO NOT VALUE "YOU"

What does it mean to “honor” yoursel.f? It does not mean to be self absorbed or critical

But to courageously get to know who you are and develop a deep respect and

compassion for yourself:as well as a “voice” rather than stuffing what really matters

to you. As a trauma survivor you have been “dishonored” and now is time to

take back what was stolen and begin the healing process!

RESCUING A PET CAN RESCUE YOU

RESCUING A PET CAN RESCUE YOU

There are so many benefits when we open our hearts to loving and caring for a pet. This is especially true if you are a trauma survivor and have been wounded by people you trusted..One of the deepest wounds for trauma survivors is that your capacity to trust has been ruptured and now it is difficult and painful to trust people and difficult to trust yourself.. Opening your heart and your home to a new “family member with 4 legs” can be a big part of the healing process! You rescue and you will be rescued!

HOW TO IDENTIFY YOUR TRAUMA TRIGGERS

HOW TO IDENTIFY YOUR TRAUMA TRIGGERS

A trauma trigger is anything that consciously or unconsciously brings back the memory of your trauma. It is a trauma reminder. When we go through having experienced trauma it takes time and attention to process how we are feeling and how what happened to us has affected us.. When we are overloaded with traumatic stress we go into the fright/flight or freeze response which is our bodies way of protecting us. However, if you do not receive the support and help,attention that is needed then these responses can get stuck in these trauma responses which will block your healing .Trauma triggers are a wake up call to show you where you are wounded and where you need healing. Therapy can greatly help you to focus on what is needed for that wounded place to heal as in therapy you can become more aware of your unconscious “ trauma triggers” as well as your conscious “trauma triggers” and see your blind spots more clearly as you gain deeper understanding...

HOW CHILDHOOD TRAUMA EFFECTS ADULT RELATIONSHIPS

HOW CHILDHOOD TRAUMA EFFECTS ADULT RELATIONSHIPS

As a child you were completely dependent and vulnerable:”like a little hostage”. If your parents were emotionally unavailable and not equipped to nurture and protect you by providing safety for you then a deep wounding occurs in your soul. If your family was one where your emotions were ignored, criticized, shamed, then you got the message at an early age that it is not safe to be “you” and in order to “survive” became disconnected from yourself. To be intimate with another it is essential to be self aware, vulnerable, and accountable.

ADULT PAIN OF CHILDHOOD EMOTIONAL NEGLECT

ADULT PAIN OF CHILDHOOD EMOTIONAL NEGLECT

Have you been denying and avoiding the pain inside?

Do you constantly need validation and praise but even when you get it you feel it is not enough?Do you struggle with identifying your feelings and have difficulties verbalizing your wants and needs in a direct way? Do you often feel that you are “not good enough” Are you overly concerned about the needs of others and fear rejection and abandonment?

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Do you shame and blame yourself when you begin to have angry feelings?

Are you “exceedingly” grateful for every “crumb” given in your relationships?