You may never have had a secure attachment as a child...which means at the critical periods where trust and security and nurturance are essential: you did not have what every baby and child desperately needs in order to feel safe and loved.Your primary caregiver may have been avoidant or ambivalent or disorganized and as a result you grew up feeling anxious or depressed and alone as well as believing the lie that you "are less than". You cannot change the past but you can begin a journey of healing all your broken hurting parts through the process of learning to reparent yourself . Remembering that you are a work in progress as you learn how to give yourself attention and to love and value as well as nurture yourself ... becoming a truly loving and present parent to yourself...regardless of your age right now....speaking the truth to yourself in love not the lies you believed.
Learning to Nurture Yourself
Taking time to be with yourself rather than avoiding you is an important part of tis process of learning to reparent yourself. Starting to notice what you really like and don't like and starting to notice what soothes you. Giving yourself the attention and time you need and learning to soothe yourself by your own voice as you give yourself compassion and grace, You may have become so accustomed to listening and obeying the inner voice of a critical parent and now it is time to develop and have your own voice :no longer being your own worst enemy.
Time to notice all the lies you believed about yourself and no longer give power to them. Giving yourself the attention you need may be new to you but it will be so beneficial as you become more conscious about what you are thinking and feeling and yet are kind and gentle with yourself: no longer beating yourself up and truly beginning the journey of leaving home and going forward in your healing journey.
A knowledgeable and caring therapist who will help you to speak the truth to yourself in love will be extremely beneficial as you learn to reparent yourself !
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