HEALING IS A PROCESS
When we lose a love one it is so essential to have a time to grieve so that you can heal. During this process it is important that you be really honest with yourself about what you are feeling as well as to be able to express your emotions and not stuff them. You may be someone that is not easily able to share their deepest feelings with others or maybe not even with yourself but this is the time to notice what is going on inside of you.
GRIEVING LOSS OF A LOVED ONE
You may have lost your loved one through death or divorce or betrayal and abandonment which can feel very much like a death as it is an ending of what was.Your loved one may have had a long illness and part of you was preparing for their passing and now you feel your loss so deeply that you feel it is difficult to go on. You may have experienced a sudden unpredictable loss of your loved one and feel numb and frozen right now.
GOING THROUGH THE GRIEVING/HEALING PROCESS
People grieve in different ways and there is no right or wrong way to go through this healing process but I want you to know it is a process that needs not to be avoided. When we suddenly lose a loved one without time to say goodbye there is often a great deal of guilt and self blame and if that relationship was complicated with unresolved issues and feelings of anger then you really need to take the time to heal so that you don't get stuck in that place. You may have just gone through a painful breakup and feel devastated by feelings of abandonment.
If you and you loved one had a loving not perfect but relatively healthy connection then as you grieve and give yourself permission to go through a myriad of emotions that you allow this process to take place though painful:it is part of your healing and part of your growth.There is no order or time frame as you go through but a focus on allowing yourself to go through.
IMPORTANCE OF SELF CARE
Self care is needed desperately as you go through this grief and healing time and a big part of your self care is learning to speak to yourself in a kind, patient and loving way. Take time to discover what is soothing for you and what aids in your nurturing yourself not to neglect yourself. This is a time to choose to be with safe people with whom you can be yourself, be real and who encourage not those that judge or condemn .Does not have to be many people but even one good friend can help so much to provide the support and love you need at this difficult time.
Am praying and believing for God to give you peace in the midst of this painful storm and for you to know you are loved and that He is with you. I would love to walk along this journey with you as you go through healing and growth during this season as therapy can be so helpful for you as part of your self care and growth as you move forward at your own pace. Looking forward to hearing from you!
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