1. CONNECTION OR DISCONNECTION: YOUR CHOICE
Yes, you have distractions (ie: work, food, alcohol, drug addiction, cell phone and being online continually as you compulsively check emails, video games, meaningless chatter, tv and news)in your life and maybe this is the first time for you to consider taking a deeper look inside and to reevaluate what and who really matters most to you and to take an inventory of where you are investing your time, and energy and attention. So important to consider the price you and your loved ones are paying for all of your distractions as well as to begin to become more conscious as to what purpose your distractions are serving.as distractions block intimate connections and keep you out of touch with what you are truly feeling and thinking. The distractions in your life are taking on a life of their own and keeping you disconnected from yourself and disconnected from others... Distractions can keep you continually avoiding yourself and others. This pattern can fuel depression and anxiety, You have a choice in all of this rather than continuing to go forward on "automatic" you can choose to become more invested in becoming more self aware and less unconscious so that this negative cycle can start to be repaired and your life restored!
2. BECOMING EMOTIONALLY NOT JUST PHYSICALLY AVAILABLE
Becoming more emotionally available will certainly require a shift in your thinking and feeling as well as behavior. It would mean feeling safe enough to open your heart to yourself and to those you love. You may be physically present but your mind and heart are somewhere else as you became accustomed to living in a "SHUTDOWN." emotional state and that has become a "bittersweet" place of comfort for you as it is so "familiar". You may have had caregivers that were not nurturing or emotionally available and being "SHUTDOWN" became just "who I am" but that is not the real truth of who you are or who you were meant to be!.
3. WHAT DO YOU NOT WANT TO FEEL?
All of your distractions are a way of you avoiding what you don't want to feel but in avoiding those painful places: your pain ends up unconsciously running your life and your relationships. I encourage you to courageously consider what I am saying and to take some quiet time to meditate on that and another beneficial way would be to journal what feelings and thoughts are coming up for you and you will begin to see and understand how your distractions were an attempt to "protect yourself" from what you feared “to feel”. But as you courageously look inside and learn to identify and feel your true feelings/emotions and give yourself permission to open your heart: your relationships will flourish as you will be able to "truly show up" not just physically but emotionally as well!
THERAPY CAN HELP BREAK THIS “SHUTDOWN”CYCLE
If what I am saying resonates with you and you are ready to courageously take a journey to address the parts of you that are "SHUTDOWN" and want to see the benefits this will have for you and your loved ones then please contact me as therapy with the right therapist will be life changing!
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