You may have come from a family where you were not ‘honored” or “valued” and where your boundaries were violated physically, emotionally, and where your spirit was taken down to the pit and broken. And as an effect of this trauma( or trauma’s) you have internalized a lot of negative beliefs and feelings toward yourself. You may be “running away” from yourself and not even notice how “shutdown” you are. You may have very likely developed a pattern of talking to yourself in a “shaming” way and you often feel depressed and defeated as a result of this “shaming” and “punishing” self-talk. (See ”Three Ways To Reparent Yourself”)This is the time to begin to identify how not “honoring” yourself can show up in your life and start to notice as you give your attention to the following three areas that are red flags of not “honoring” yourself.

1. YOU ARE SURROUNDED BY PEOPLE WHO DO NOT RESPECT YOUR BOUNDARIES

It is important for you to know that you can learn alot about how you truly feel about yourself by the ways others treat you. You may have gotten so used to “eating crumbs” that now you think it is a full meal…but it is not. We train people how to treat us by how we feel about ourselves. So if you are having your boundaries not respected than it is essential that you address the part of you that has been so wounded and this pattern is familiar but it also is toxic. (See: ”3 Keys To Freedom From Toxic Relationships”)

2. YOU DO NOT SET BOUNDARIES

In order to “honor” yourself it is essential to learn to set boundaries as that is a big part of you beginning to acknowledge that you “exist and that you value yourself” You may be so afraid to set boundaries as you fear rejection and abandonment and also that you have “never used those muscles” but now it is time for you to learn to say “no” just as a two-year-old learns that. And for your “no” to be honored first by you before anyone else can honor it. Am using the word “no” as an example of you determining what is acceptable and what is not for you. No one can read your mind!

See: ”How Establishing Boundaries After Trauma Is Essential For Your Healing”

3. YOU AVOID “YOU”

You may have gotten so accustomed to being distracted and busy that you have developed a pattern of avoiding and neglecting “you”. You may struggle with speaking the truth in love to yourself as well as acknowledging what your “wounds and issues’ are and yet you are finding out how those unhealed areas have taken control of your life. Time to slow down and get the help you so need so you can heal.

See: “Ways To Recognize That You Do Not Value Yourself”

THERAPY WITH THE “RIGHT” THERAPIST CAN HELP YOU TO “HONOR” YOURSELF

Finally giving yourself the attention and time you need with the “right” therapist can be life-affirming!! You can begin to feel safe in your body and safe with another person who truly understands and can guide you and is able to walk with you on this amazing healing journey If what I am saying resonates with you then please give me a call!.

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