1. CONTROL AND MANIPULATION

Narcissists live and love to have power over you. Have you noticed that your decisions and your thoughts and feelings:your emotional perspective do not have any value or worth in their world which is based on control and manipulation. The narcissist has one objective and that is their desire to overtake and control as well as isolate you: and for you to believe the lie that you are helpless and powerless.Toxic relationships. may feel familiar as you very likely had one or both parents who narcissistically abused you as a child and now this toxic pattern is continuing due to unconscious wounds of your past.

This weapon of control and manipulation is abusive and has very likely taken time for you to begin to process and see how your mind, body and spirit have been effected and how you have been deeply wounded, You may be experiencing depression and anxiety, multiple physical symptoms and an overflow of self doubt as well as well as self hatred as you have internalized the toxicity from this toxic relationship. Do not blame yourself or beat yourself up as" you did not know what you did not know", .

2. LACK OF EMPATHY

The narcissist has no capacity to understand their emotions and feelings and has no desire to. Since they have no understanding or insight into their own inner world they are completely unable to see and care and listen as well as hear or care about what you are saying and feeling.

In the process of not being able to put themselves in another’s shoes so to speak: they cannot be a true friend who encourages or a loving partner who is able to address conflict in a dialogue and to show up emotionally as well as to be accountable. There is a deep profound blindness that they are walking in that prevents emotional development and spiritual growth as well as having a real connection with others. The quality of heart that is needed to have healthy alive and growing relationships is not possible due to this.

3. YOU HAVE A VOICE: NO LONGER MAKE PEACE WITH POWERLESSNESS

You may feel like you no longer have a voice but the truth is that you do! Your voice is proof you are still here...alive and breathing and can begin to move forward, Narcissistic abuse no longer has to run your life.You can learn to set limits and boundaries and to regain your confidence and to start to make choices that reflect you are beginning to take steps towards wisdom, and self care. You can choose to no longer make peace with powerlessness. It is essential that you regain yourself and your power and not make excuses for this toxic relationship but gain understanding.

Therapy can be so helpful as you are going through this process as you learn to stretch and grow past your comfort zones and give yourself the attention you so desperately need,,.it is time actually overtime that you make an investment in yourself so healing can take place mentally, emotionally, physically and last but certainly not least; spiritually.

If what I am saying resonates with you then please give me a call as would be honored to guide and accompany you on this amazing journey of transformation and healing from the inside out!

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